Warsan Shire is a real one. Kenya-born but raised in London by Somali parents, Shire is a writer and poet whose remarkable talent belies her tender years (she's barely out of her mid-twenties!) I find immense inspiration in her work and words, some of which I've gathered here. Buy her book and read about her role in Beyonce's Lemonade project.
"Document the moments you feel most in love with yourself - what you’re wearing, who you’re around, what you’re doing. Recreate and repeat."
“Don't assume, ask. Be kind. Tell the truth. Don't say anything you can't stand behind fully. Have integrity. Tell people how you feel.”
“My alone feels so good, I'll only have you if you're sweeter than my solitude.”
“you can't make homes out of human beings
someone should have already told you that”
"A wonderful poet by the name of Jacob Sam La-Rose (my editor and mentor) told me a few years ago ‘Use the internet, don’t let the internet use you’. That echoes in my head most days; I navigate through the space very aware of how important protecting myself is."
Q: How do you practice self-care? Warsan: "I try to write down everything that provides comfort, relief, clarity or escape. I separate it into lists; music, films, places, scents, names of loved ones. A gratitude list to ground me. A list of near death experiences. A list of ways to escape, distract, shift focus from obsessive/dark thoughts. I have playlists for blue times, I don't know what the general consensus was but Drake's latest mixtape had healing properties in it. When I am depressed, I find it really difficult to remember what joy feels like and where it lives, this helps me guide myself back to feeling better." (Via Araweelo Abroad)
I’m certain that everyone, everyone, everyone, everyone, absolutely everyone is deserving of love. I truly believe that love is for everybody, and I think it would just fucking make everything so much more amazing if everybody was loved in the way that they deserve to be loved, or the way that they need to be loved, and then maybe would be more loving towards one another and to ourselves, as well. So I was speaking to a mate of mine last night about how to move on from things and how to not be bitter and not let past experiences hinder you or fill you with fear. And I was just thinking about the wounds that sometimes love causes or a lack of love causes. It’s only love that can heal that. When love fucks you up, and love makes you feel like you just wanna die, what else is it that can make you feel better but more love?
I couldn’t think of anything else. Who says that love has to be from another person? Even when you’re sitting in the center of your own solitude, and you’re by yourself, are you not loving yourself? Isn’t it love that you’re using to heal yourself? Definitely not talking about being dependent on another human being all the time and just continuously looking for love in this desperate way, absolutely not. But just love. And it doesn’t have to be romantic love! It doesn’t even have to be from anybody outside of yourself. (Via Stop Being Famous)
"But sometimes your light attracts moths and your warmth attracts parasites. Protect your space and energy."
"I’m lovely and lonely. I belong deeply to myself."